Entrepreneuring – The How To Guide

TITLE: eSCAPE – The 4 Stages of Becoming A Successful Entrepreneur

PRICE: $12.59 USD
AUDIENCE/WHO IS IT FOR? Anyone who wants to be an entrepreneur
PRODUCT OVERVIEW: 263 pages of entrepreneurial advice
WEBSITE/WHERE TO BUY: Amazon.com

BEST QUOTE:

An entrepreneur is someone who claims a problem and decides to own the process of finding a solution to that problem. And that solution creates tremendous value in the lives of others.

Anik Singal

One of the main reasons why I started this blog was to help others (and myself) get to a place of more freedom and a life of much more ease. The way I see that happening for me is to be able to work from home so that I can structure my own day, be my own boss and spend time doing more of the things that I love the most.

Get busy loving nature!

My mission is to help as many people as possible break free from the BRULE’s (Vishen Lakhiani’s word for Bullshit Rules) that we were taught as kids. One of them being that we need to have a J-O-B (Just Over Broke) to meet our responsibilities and be a contributing member of the over taxed economy. Basically, we need a JOB to be successful and maybe even to act as the label many of us need to have status in our society.

So, on my hunt to make more money online and keep learning – I brought Anik Singal’s book ‘eSCAPE – The 4 stages of Becoming A Successful Entrepreneur.’

The Pro’s

  1. eSCAPE is super easy to read. I have been following Anik for a while and I like his style. I am about 75% through one of Lurn’s courses and this is probably one of the main reasons I brought this book. I trust what he has to say – he has the authority, given that he is living proof of what can be achieved online. As a mentor goes, he is a pretty good one. Not only that, I think that his heart is truly in the right place and honestly does want to help as many people as possible to live freer and march to their own drum.
  2. Good balance of conscious thought and business acumen. I really like that Anik balanced eSCAPE with ‘conscious’ comments as well as sound business advice. To quote Anik, “we fail because of how we make decisions. We fail because of the internal programming we’ve been building for decades.” True enough. Overcoming limiting beliefs has got to be one of the things to beat to become a successful entrepreneur. Good advice.
  3. Structure. I really like the structure of eSCAPE. At the end of each chapter, Anik asks a few very pointed questions to make you think about whether entrepreneurship is really for you and/or if you have the commitment to do what needs to be done. It worked for me anyway.
  4. Excellent entrepreneurial advice. eSCAPE is packed full of excellent advice, case studies, ways of thinking, do’s and don’ts and the good/bad stories of past experiences – mostly how one can learn from past mistakes. One of the stories Anik talks about is about an entrepreneur that duped his competition by telling them that he only works 9-5 so that the competitor would work less hours on his own business and therefore be less of a competitor. But, as Anik says – he really meant that he starts at 5.00am and works until 9.00pm – or something along those lines. As with Anik, it was a bit of a shit trick. But, I like the story because it spoke of Anik’s genuine business ethic and the fact that you don’t have to be immoral to be a successful entrepreneur.

The Con’s

  1. eSCORE. During the book, Anik presents a quiz to take will give you your ‘eSCORE’ – which shows you how likely it is that you will succeed as an entrepreneur and which areas need more focus to help you become a successful entrepreneur. I enjoyed the quiz and got a pretty good result. In fact, the areas that I need to work on were bang on the money. The only worry I have is that others may take this quiz, not do so well and choose not to follow an entrepreneurial path because of it. But, if taken as Anik meant, the quiz will not act as a deterrent only as a guide of what to focus on. Second thought, maybe this is another Pro!
  2. Work long hours. One of the key messages that are kind of laced through the whole book is that to be a successful entrepreneur, you need to work long hours to get there. I have to be a bit careful here because it is clear that Anik loves what he does and it doesn’t feel like work. I believe that when we are doing what we love, nothing feels like work. But, being more focused on my spiritual side than my business side, the idea of having to trade one job for another that potentially
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has long hours doesn’t thrill me and I simply don’t believe this to be true. There is too much evidence to suggest that manifesting can be instant providing you stay in flow. Take inspired action for sure but don’t get caught in the long hours – UNLESS it’s stuff you truly love doing.

Verdict

This is an excellent book and one everyone who is thinking about becoming an entrepreneur should read. eSCAPE is written in honest easy to read language with excellent strategies and advice to take on and apply to your own entrepreneurial journey. I will read this book again one day and would recommend it to anyone interested in this topic.

Final word from Anik:

..if you truly want to succeed as an Entrepreneur, you need to make a daily conscious effort to…

Keep learning…

Keep networking…

Keep practicing…

Anik Singal – eSCAPE – The 4 Stages of Becoming A Successful Entrepreneur

Overall score: 90/100

Christchurch Massacre. From Heartsick to Awe!

Today marks a week from the devastating Christchurch massacre. It is hard to explain how and why this has been such a devastating blow to kiwi’s but if you live here, you will understand. We were raised in a culture where it was normal not to see your parents during the daylight hours in the summer because you left in the morning to play with your mates and only came back to be fed and watered. No one worried. It was safe. Normal.

I’m not saying that terrible things didn’t happen here but it was rare. I’m also not saying that we didn’t have racism or white supremacists either. It and they were both here. It and they clearly still are.

The Christchurch massacre isn’t the worst thing to happen on the planet but to quote one expat, this sort of thing doesn’t happen in l’il ole New Zealand. I’m not trying to take away from the agony that other countries feel at the terrible things that happen overseas by any stretch of the imagination. It’s just that Kiwi’s have been, not programmed as such but raised to see New Zealand as a safe haven. Many of the survivors (and also the victims) have been quoted as saying the same. All so very sad.

But, personally and unfortunately, I have always thought that it was only a matter of time. Hate and extremism are everywhere. But, so is love.

I don’t believe that our innocence is lost or that our sense of security has gone. The thing that makes me the proudest is that the stories getting the most airtime seem to be focusing on the same things. Support, healing and just getting on. This heart breaking event has opened more hearts than it has closed.

As Jacinda says:


We were not a target because we are a safe harbour for those who hate. We were not chosen for this act of violence because we condone racism, because we’re an enclave for extremism. We were chosen for the very fact that we are none of these things; because we represent diversity, kindness, compassion, a home for those that share our values, a refuge for those who need it. And those values, I can assure you, will not and cannot be shaken by this attack

Jacinda Ardern

I haven’t watched the news with any regularity for years. It’s too horrible to watch – my eyeballs and ears do not need to see that or hear that. But, I have this week.

Not to hear about the hideous details of what occurred. I have watched to hear the outstanding stories of our heroes. Our community. Our spirit.

What has really struck me about this week is not the ripple effect of the hateful but the tsunami of loving courageous people that have had to deal with this tragic event at the coal face.

I have literally gone from feeling sick to being in awe of the victims, their surviving family/friends, the people of Christchurch and New Zealand. It’s been staggering. It has made me see and more deeply understand that our mostly accepting culture has been brought together due to the actions of one hateful man who intended exactly the opposite. As a nation we have stepped up to support and demonstrate our love for the victims – irrespective of their religious beliefs. Because that isn’t what matters here. Well not to me anyway.

It is awe inspiring to know that for the most part, us Kiwi’s don’t care about what religion you are or the colour of your skin. We’re all part of the same community – therefore, kin. Countrymen.

As I have said, I am not naïve enough to think that racism and extremism don’t exist in this Country. But, after seeing how (on the whole) New Zealand has come out in horror and supported the victims – I have great hope that as a Nation we can (with time) help to heal together.

I have never been prouder to be a kiwi.

To the families, we cannot know your grief but we can walk with you at every stage. We can and we will surround you with aroha, love, manaakitanga, kindness and all that makes us us.

Jacinda Ardern

Focus On Our Humanity

It is clear the terrorist/lone gunman/madman has done this partly for a desire to be in the history books. But, who cares. On this, I am 100% with Jacinda Ardern. I won’t say his name or focus on the hateful piggy-backers that have come out since the shootings. In the days to come, I will make sure that all of that is deleted from my memory banks entirely. We as a Country will make sure (I hope) that this misguided man is not remembered.

The controversy and international impacts that the Christchurch massacre has caused is a concern. The license that this has given to other like minded people around the world is also a concern. But, we all have our opinions and we are all entitled to them. It’s a free world. But…

I CHOOSE not to make that my focus.

Maybe, we shouldn’t be focusing on the religious aspect of this tragedy either. That only seems to strengthen what this one person was trying to achieve. Hate speak, debate and shit slinging on social media. This only serves to create more and stronger factions. More hate. Uncertainty. Fear.

I CHOOSE to focus on the humanity.

The Muslim community has handled this tragedy with a depth of faith that is incredible. Their voices have not been about hate. Rather than being bitter about this tragic event, I will choose the path of least resistance and feel sorry for the shooter. As the wife of one of the victims said, she feels sorry for the shooter because he has obviously never known the love that she has had and still feels. I’m choosing that.

From this tragic event, comes a reminder to be forever mindful and thankful for our differences. My hope is that we all take this as a time to spread the love and be awesome!

Thanks for the reminder crazy man.

There’s No Such Thing as Woo Woo. Only Woo Hoo!

What’s with All the Woo Woo?

Mindvalley Academy is probably one of the best investments that I have made in terms of my personal development. There is so much awesome content to work with that sometimes it gets a bit overwhelming because I want to know it all, read it all, attend all the masterclasses and quests on offer. But, (and it’s a very small but) this week I found myself a little disappointed to hear the term “Woo Woo” referred to and it got me to thinking.

I am such a firm believer in the fact that we are all spiritual beings having a human experience that I can’t fathom anything that could possibly be considered “Woo Woo”.

Anything is Possible. Don’t believe the Woo Woo!


This Woo Woo product (that I have never heard of) is probably the only exception!

In this day and age, spiritual seekers know (or should know) that there is nothing in this realm that can’t be manifested, thought up or conceived of. Personally, I haven’t quite got the knack of it all but it is not through a lack of belief that it can and does happen – miraculously, instantaneously and fantastically.

Think about it. If, as a spiritual person, you believe that we are all a part of the God consciousness and we are just here to have a human experience – isn’t anything possible?

There are so many books that support this. All from people who have personally experienced the miraculous, like Anita Moorjani and Wayne Dyer.

Vishen Lakhiani’s book Code of the Extraordinary Mind also points to our abilities to make the impossible possible.


Many people believe that only certain individuals have the ability to shape the world around them. That only the “special ones” are able to leave a lasting legacy. But the truth is, all of us have that capability. We just haven’t learned how to use it yet.

Vishen Lakhiani

Apart from the laws of attraction (which basically says that anything you can conceive and focus on will manifest), I am a firm believer in our guardian angels and the Archangels that look out for us. There is too much evidence to support the interventions of our Angels to bring about miracles. I have always been fascinated by the existence of our Angels. Doreen Virtue has written a number of Angel specific books that I have read and loved. In her book Mary Queen of Angels, she writes about many miraculous healings that have been evidenced by Science.

Pictures like this have been painted for centuries.

Sixty-seven miracle healings from Lourdes have been studied, investigated, and validated by the Lourdes Medical Bureau and the Catholic Church. Researchers believe that there are at least 5,000 that haven’t been validated, but are nonetheless credible.

Doreen Virtue – Mary Queen of Angels

Many people (conscious and unconscious) are probably firm believers that there is a lot of “Woo Woo” goings on. They may be non-believers but the popularity and my personal love of movies like the Matrix and Dr Strange (to name only two) support the knowledge that on some level a LOT of people can at least imagine an alternate reality.

Wayne Dyer quotes Neville in his book Wishes Fulfilled, and I love this:

Disregard appearances, conditions, in fact all evidence (my emphasis) of your senses that deny the fulfilment of your desire. Rest in the assumption that you are already what you want to be, for in that determined assumption you and your Infinite Being are merged in creative unity, and with your Infinite Being (God) all things are possible. God never fails.

Neville

With a Catholic upbringing, I know that this line of thinking will be considered blasphemous (being a part of God not a follower of God) and potentially bordering on evil. But, I also know that institutionalised Churches do not allow for the contemporaneous thinking of the day (or even Neville’s day) or the changes in the Global consciousness. I don’t have anything against Churches, I just personally don’t have a need of them.

Have Faith in The Woo Hoo!

There are a few ducks that need to be in a row to master manifesting (which is for another post and something I am constantly working on) but for me, we first need to stop believing in “Woo Woo” and start having faith in Woo Hoo!

Woo Hoo is where all the wonder is at. It is where we start to live in Awe of the things we see around us every day. It is when we start to stay in a constant state of gratitude for the abundance that is already surrounding us and for all that is coming.

Woo Hoo is knowing that the Universe has your back and that only good things are meant to transpire here.

I am all-knowing. I am all-powerful. I am unlimited.

Wayne Dyer: Wishes Fulfilled

The Definition of ‘Ego’ and Why It Doesn’t Matter!

The Definition of Ego

For years I have thought that the ‘Ego’ was the enemy. That devil on your shoulder that keeps you ‘safe’. Safe from real or imagined threats. That voice in your head that is constantly nagging at you whether you realise it or not. Whether you hear it or not.

I have read many books that say that the ego is the negative self speak that undermines our higher purpose. Doreen Virtue calls it “the lower self or false guidance.” For example:

True Guidance

Everything is going to work out great.

False Guidance

What if it doesn’t?

Doreen Virtue – Divine Guidance

When you look at the psychoanalytical definition of ego (not the guy kissing muscles definition) as follows:


“The part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.”

Bing

This definition of the ego is almost the direct opposite of the ‘false guidance’ that Doreen Virtue talks about. I am not a philosopher by any stretch of the imagination but until recently, I leant more to the view that the ego is primarily our negative self speak. That voice in our heads that stops us doing what is in our best interest or tell us that we are not enough.

Divine Guidance to the Rescue

I firmly believe that there is a difference between divine guidance and false guidance. Doreen Virtue notes that there are characteristics of divine guidance. According to Doreen Virtue, true guidance is:

  1. Mature – Supportive and motivational
  2. Consistent – Similar messages supporting you on a particular path
  3. About helping others
  4. Doesn’t procrastinate – Nudging us to pursue our true purpose
  5. Strong and powerful
  6. Sounds familiar
  7. Supportive
  8. Comes suddenly and completely
  9. Never puts us above or below others

So, in that thinking the ego is the opposite of all of the above. And, this is partially the reason why I have always seen the ego as something to be stomped! Wiped out. Turned around. Ignored. But….

Anita Moorjani’s book (Dying to be Me) started me thinking a bit differently about the ego and how we perceive it. The way I understand it is that Anita is saying that we shouldn’t try to park our ego speak entirely because it is there for a reason. But, if the ego is working for us in the negative, we should acknowledge it and then try to work from a position of love.

“If you deny the ego, it will push back against you harder. The more you reject something, the more it fights back for it’s own survival. But when you can completely live your ego unconditionally and accept it as part of how you express in this life, you’ll no longer have a problem with it. It won’t impede your growth – on the contrary, it will be an asset.”

Anita Moorjani – Dying to be me

The Good News – We Can Change!

For a long time, I had a paralysing fear of public speaking. So, I have been using a number of mental tools to wipe this out. But, it has helped me to realise that our fears or ego speak are an opportunity to overcome that which we are afraid of. If we truly turn our ego’s to our advantage as Anita writes, we would view the world in an entirely different way and behave totally differently as well.

Think how much more we would do if we used our fears (or ego speak) as fuel to do all of the things that we are afraid of? Because, chances are those fears are our higher self’s way of telling us that we are not living our highest self’s true purpose.

I am reading John Assaraf’s new book at the moment. In the book, John talks about AiA.

A: Awareness

I: Intention

A: Action

John Assaraf –
“Innercise – The New Science To Unlock Your Brain’s Hidden Power”

John takes a bit more of a scientific view of the ego based language we hear on a daily basis but he does support the view that we can use those fears as a means to grow providing we are Aware of the fear, have an Intention to change it AND take Action.

According to John, “from an evolutionary perspective, being sceptical, unsure, and negative is a valuable trait. It helps stop you from impulsively indulging in risky behaviour, like gambling or overeating.” But, he also cautions that we don’t use our ‘stories’ to stay stuck.

So, to an exciting conclusion.


The definition of Ego doesn’t matter. What we do to change it does!

Exhausted to Energised! 10 things to do to get your energy back.

I was sitting on the couch the night before Christmas feeling wrecked! It’s been a really tough year this year and family responsibilities at this time of year are off the scale and often the straw that breaks the camels back! I wasn’t feeling sorry for myself but I wasn’t being terribly proactive to move the fatigue on.

It was pouring with rain. Probably the heaviest we have seen in a long time and I felt it was time to take the dogs for a walk. Without a rain coat and my old shoes, the dogs and I set out to the park. They weren’t in the slightest bit bothered and given I love walking in heavy rain, I wasn’t either. We had the park to ourselves (no one else crazy enough to take on the elements) and it was exhilarating. The huge culvert that runs the length of the park was at it’s capacity and flowing so fast, you could imagine white water rafting on it.

Going for that walk reminded me how much I love brutal weather and the very real health benefits that nature has – and it prompted me to write this post as a reminder to others that are struggling with tiredness or any other brain fog conditions that happen to most of us this time of year.

1. Get Back to Nature

It doesn’t have to be wild weather to re-invigorate you (especially if that’s not your thing) but most people have access to a park with trees. One of my favourite things to do in nature is to walk in New Zealand’s native bush. Find somewhere you love and take regular walks or runs. One book I read suggested sitting at the base of the tree and just being mindful is a good way to get back to nature. You don’t have to incorporate the exercise if you don’t want to.

2. Exercise

Any exercise works but I personally find walking really beneficial but that is probably because I am unfit. According to many specialists, Yoga is one of the better forms of exercise to steady the mind and bring more calming thoughts and destress. I plan to start incorporating some form of Yoga practice into my day in the New Year for exactly this reason.

3. Have a Nap

This has never really been on my list of things to do and to be honest, I have been known to look down my nose at people that take naps. I have kind of looked on it as a bit of a weakness – I know. Judgemental. But, I am re-evaluating after listening to the Sleep Doctor’s masterclass with Vishen through Mindvalley. He says that taking a nap is one of the most proactive things we can do to aid sleep and in my view destress. I have had a couple of afternoon naps since being on holiday and must admit to feeling more refreshed afterwards. I think the trick is to time it. Apparently, studies show that 26 minutes I the optimum amount of time to day snooze.

4. Meditate

This is probably an obvious one but I don’t actually know that many people that meditate – even though it is common knowledge that meditation has calming and elevating affects. Meditation certainly helps when incorporated into your daily routine. I would hate to think how chaotic my life would be without it.

Try not to let the “I’m too busy” thoughts get the better of you. Taking time to meditate will actually make your day more productive. Not less. It’s a fantastic way to destress and have some me time.

5. Assess Your Diet

A few years ago (and I hope I don’t get done for slander) I ate a KFC burger and within minutes, I felt my energy levels draining. I haven’t eaten one since. Doubters will probably say that it’s my imagination but I know in myself it was the burger. Low energy foods lead to more low energy foods. We all know the foods that keep us in a low vibe. I’m not saying stop everything because who’s going to say no to pavlova or cheesecake this time of year – but just be conscious. A good book to re-evaluate your eating habits is Clean Gut by Alejandro Junger.

There is a heap of lovely and healthy recipes in this book that are easy to make and tasty. I have also subscribed to their newsletter and get plenty of new recipes sent to my inbox. This is a lifestyle choice rather than a diet. It’s taking me a bit of time to implement but it feels worth it so far.

6. Say NO!

If you’re anything like me, you are the one who willingly helps others and therefore struggles to say no when others need help. Sometimes, you have to be kind to yourself first and say no so that you have a bit of time up your sleave for some personal self care. It’s worth it and there are plenty of ways to say no without hurting anyone’s feelings.

And, it’s not just about saying no to helping others. In the last week, I have taken an email holiday. Instead of stressing about my overwhelming inbox, I have just switched off. Not checking emails on a daily basis has been awesome. Not only that, when I do check my emails – I don’t read a lot of them. I will scan the headings and delete the ones that are unimportant. You could also file some of the ‘to do’ emails in a ‘post holiday’ file for you to pick up once you have had a chance to relax and recuperate.

“I lied and said I was busy.
I was busy;
but not in a way most people understand.

I was busy taking deeper breaths.
I was busy silencing irrational thoughts.
I was busy calming a racing heart.
I was busy telling myself I am okay.

Sometimes, this is my busy –
and I will not apologize for it.”


Brittin Oakman

7. Do Something Different

Instead of just hanging around the house, go exploring. It doesn’t have to be expensive. My partner and I spent last Christmas exploring areas of Auckland we never go to and it was great. It could even be as simple as taking a different route to somewhere you travel to a lot. It has surprising positive impacts on your mindset and makes the day to day things that we have to do a little less mundane. It also helps to get you out of your own head.

8. Read a Book

When I read a book, it’s about the only time that I put my feet up and relax. Reading is relaxing for me and again, it helps to get me out of my own head. As my Dad says, when you have a good book – you are never bored. Reading is something that you simply can’t do in a stressful way – if you enjoy reading.

9. Deep Breathing

This works! Not only is deep breathing a proven technique for helping with anxiety, it most certainly resets your brain long enough to change the course of any negative thoughts and elevate your mood. The beauty of deep breathing is that it is indistinct enough to be done anywhere, and it works quickly. There are heaps of techniques on line. Try and experiment with a few and see which ones you like best.

10. Get a Massage

Not one of those bloody sports massages. I had one of those a few years ago – never again. It was like paying for the dentist. A real pain. I could not believe that I thought all massages were created equal. $150 and an hour and a half of sheer pain. Not what the doctor ordered!

It’s lovely to spoil yourself with a kind, relaxing, essential oil laden massage. A soak in the bath works pretty well too.

Big AHA! Thanks Anita Moorjani!

Growing up, our lovely parents taught us that it is important to have goals. How important it is to continually strive for something better – well mine did. Looking back on my life, I can see that my WHOLE life has been centred around trying harder. Doing better. Working harder. Earning more. Striving. Competing.

One of my Oldest sayings has been, “I’ll never be one of those people that “Will be happy when”…. You know how it goes. I’ll be happy when I have that new car or I’ll be happy when I have paid off the house. But guess what? True to the Law of Attraction, constantly saying that has meant that this that was my focus and in the back of my mind, exactly what I have been doing – without even realising it. Putting living my life off until….

For all of you Australians, the link for the book is below:

Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing

For one reason or another, I have attracted “hardship” or ongoing crap. It hasn’t all been bad but there seems to be a constant stream of drama’s. I know that I certainly give it the power by complaining “the situation” all the time.

I complain about things in the most positive of ways.  The typical way that I tell my story is: Blah, blah, blah. Complain, complain, complain. “Oh but, it will be okay. It will all work out”. Or some other trending ‘positive’ catch phrase that works. This convinces others that I am a “positive” person. But, ultimately I am still complaining about the “reality” of the situation or event rather than being truly PRESENT.

Anita’s book got me to thinking that perhaps I should just throw it all out. Stop doing all of the things that make up my hour plus long morning routine to attract great wealth and a better life. Stop caring and worrying about everything. Just let life unfold as it is meant to. As I chose it to be before I even chose to incarnate in this lifetime. Just live my life purpose and everything else be damned.

But, that is not how it works. As Anita says, in our human forms our minds get in the way but we have all come here with a purpose. Collectively, by improving ourselves we improve the global consciousness simply because we are all connected. 

Another re-think

Thinking it through again, I realised that it may be human to think but it is also human to always want to do greater things. To Strive. To grow. I certainly do. I realised that my daily routine wasn’t just about manifesting more wealth into my life. It’s true to say that I started my daily routine to learn how to manifest more wealth but I wanted more wealth so that I could help more people.

The morning routine lives another day! I just have to remind myself yet again, that it’s the journey that counts and to fully live every day.


90 Days to Change – Yeah Right!

Don’t Believe the Hype – Spirituality doesn’t work to a timepiece!

During winning the Game of Fear, John Assaraf demonstrated this lovely graph. It was your standard bell curve graph that showed a 90 day timeline. The graph referenced showed that a habit or programming generally fades into the distance at the end of a 90 day period.

……………………………………………………………….Yeah Right!

I started my new and positive routine on the 16th of April and here’s the proof. 

I work that out to be 189 days! If you guessed that I sound pissed off that I am not living my dream life with my 3 houses, kids financially independent, health 100% excellent, 100% positive, trekking around the world, working from home with my profitable/successful online business – you would have guessed right.

Pissed off might be a bit of an overstatement but I haven’t manifested any of the things that I have been visualising for the last 189 days. In all of the online forums and communities I belong to, I read about people manifesting anything they want instantaneously by applying the things that I have been applying in my life for the past 189 days. It is disheartening. Especially when I hark back to John’s bell curve.

Is there something wrong with me? Am I doing it all wrong? Is manifesting just for other people? Is it time to stop wasting my time?

No! Recap?

Back in April, I was doing it all.

  • Eddie Sergey’s – 15 Minute Manifestation
  • Natalie Ledwell’s – Ultimate Success Masterclass and Mind Movies
  • John Assaraf’s – Winning the Game of Fear
  • Vishen Lakhiani’s – 6 Phase Meditation from Mind Valley
  • Daily affirmations
  • On and Off hypnosis with Marissa Peer

What I have learnt is that I can’t do it all at once – or probably shouldn’t. Still not 100% sure because ‘IT’ hasn’t worked yet.

Or has it?

Time to recap. Since April, I have:

  • Laughed more
  • Seen a significant change in my thinking
  • Seen an improvement in my relationship with my daughter
  • Reacted to challenging situations in my life a WHOLE lot better
  • Been more relaxed
  • Felt good about my commitment to my morning routine
  • Fought for and got a refund to the value of $4,000 from a merchant who promises at the time of purchase that there is absolutely no chance of a refund post purchase
  • Worked from home a LOT more = Had time to earn an income from a job and grow my business
  • Had a small win with Lotto
  • DECLUTTERED my life

Time to Hunker Down

After a recap and a quick slap to the side of my head, I realise that my ‘demon’ are at it again. Manifesting isn’t about getting ‘stuff’ or instantly being the best person we can be. It’s all about the journey. I know that I keep banging on about it but whenever I catch myself in negative thinking, this is always where I come back to. Dah! Don’t forget – it’s about the bloody journey. And it’s been a helluva ride so far.

It’s not the fastest ride but it’s still awesome – and no, this is not me.

What I know is that I enjoy my morning routine (which is now a whole lot simpler) and I am changing. I am absolutely seeing positive results. It may not be the results that I was expecting or wanting but do I care? Not really. I’m enjoying the ride and looking forward to seeing what comes next.

In many of the books that I have read, the point is made that when you are experiencing the negative feelings sometimes associated with the Art of Manifesting – it’s time to hang on with all of your appendages! Keep up the good fight. Keep calm and carry on. Battle on.  Keep moving forward. All that good stuff. There is zero value in comparing yourself and your progress to anyone elses!

I firmly believe it! As Wayne Dyer says:

Change the things that you are looking at and the things that you are looking at will change.

Wayne Dyer

It has to. It’s the Law.

Bring on day 190!

Tania halpin

Wayne Dyer Never Fails – Wishes Fulfilled!

Dr Wayne W. Dyer is the best selling author of over 20 books and it can easily be said, an expert in manifesting he is also well known as the “Father of Motivation”. His life work was to elevate the consciousness of as may people as possible through Self Empowerment and Personal Growth. His work has had a powerful and life changing effect on me and I am sure continues to do so for a vast amount of people on the planet. He was a true visionary and his work just keeps on giving.

It is my absolute pleasure to write a review for Dr Wayne W. Dyer’s book Wishes Fulfilled. Because of Wayne’s very personable writing style, his books are never difficult to read but this one I found absolutely enthralling. I just about used up all of my sticky note tabs marking what I thought to be the key points or particularly thought provoking that I needed to re-visit.

Wishes Fulfilled takes the concept of the Art of Manifesting and the tools provided in “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne to a whole new level. With well-researched ideas and a common sense approach to life, Wishes Fulfilled gives you the very tools you need to manifest anything that you want into your life but you may need to open your mind before you read it.


Our Higher Selves

I have always believed (well as long as I can remember) in the concept of my higher self but Wishes Fulfilled goes even deeper than I had considered previously. For me, it is a fact that we are all connected on this planet and this book not only reinforces that concept but explores some very well researched content that proves (to me) that not only are we connected, but the knowledge of this has been around for hundreds, if not thousands of years.

“Health, wealth, beauty and genius are not created; they are only manifested by the arrangement of your mind – that is, by your concept of yourself, and your concept of yourself is all that you accept and consent to as true.”

Neville

This is one of the first quotes that peeked my interest because of when it was written. Many people would believe that “The Secret” was the trail blazer but Neville and many others beat them to it by a country mile.

I love the idea of needing to have a “burning desire” to drive you towards all of your manifesting dreams. First termed by Neville, Wayne Dyer takes it further to say we need to see ourselves as “observers.” Not letting our thoughts control us and throwing out the negative ones that keep us stuck in a life of ordinary.

“Observe….

Contemplate….

Then Choose….”

Wayne Dyer

According to Wayne, we need to use our burning desire to become the manifesters we want to be by only focusing on those thoughts that are for our highest good and remembering we are divine. Christie Marie Sheldon puts this very well. We are “infinite beings having a human experience.”

The chapters of Wishes Fulfilled that focus on our higher selves continues to deliver quotes and ideas that are supportive of the concept of our higher selves but I have to say that these chapters have changed the way that I approach my days. Wayne’s view that we are equal to or are God will be pretty mind boggling and blasphemous for some but this is why it is so important to read this book with an open mind.

In my view, this book truly convinces one that we are all God and have access to all that God does if we only change our attention. Our focus. My favourite quote of this section follows:

“Believing in that ego-driven idea of God as a malevolent super being who plays favourites and is filled with rage if you displease Him is akin to believing in the Easter bunny and praying that that rabbit to solve your problems. Keep uppermost in your thoughts the words of Jesus – “God is love” – and that you are proud to be that all-powerful God yourself.”

Wayne Dyer

I will never use God’s name in vain again. My “I AM’s” will only ever be positive ones.


The Five Foundations

There is so much in Wishes Fulfilled that I would love to quote but I want people to read this post so that more people read the book – so, I will struggle along to summarise my thoughts on this wonderful book in as few words as possible.

The Five Foundations that Wayne talks about are fairly obvious to anyone that has read or studied personal development and wellness.  But there are obvious differences and the author explores each topic from a spiritual viewpoint rather than scientifically – which I really liked.


Rather than completely plagiarise the book, there are five key themes (or foundations as they are called in Wishes Fulfilled) that a generally as follows:

  1. The Importance of Imagination
  2. Live now as though you already have ‘it’
  3. Feeling that you have it on an emotional level
  4. Unwavering attention
  5. Visualising before sleep

1. The Importance of Imagination

Two of the main things that I picked up in this segment of the book is about not limiting our imaginations and to never tell anyone else about our dreams. These two things will stay with me forever. Almost immediately after finishing Wishes Fulfilled, myself and my partner met with a Financial Advisor to map out our next five year plan. When I told him about developing an Affiliate Marketing business so that I could work from home, his comment was “Oh, that will never work. We’ve had other clients that have tried that and they’ve failed. Boom! Positive reinforcement not to share.

I’m refusing to let anyone drag my dreams down.   As Wayne says:

“Reprogram your imagination to take you everywhere – everywhere that you are brave enough to envision for yourself.”

Wayne Dyer

We have to think expansively to stay true to our higher selves. I follow Mike Dooley and one of his catch phrases is “Thoughts become Things. Pick the good ones.” It’s easy to say, “stay positive” to someone but it’s more than that. When we catch ourselves thinking negatively, it’s important to choose more expansive thoughts.  Thoughts that have “a sacred sense of rightness” always moving us to a higher vibration. A higher vibration that is not controlled by ego that exists purely to keep us physically ‘safe’ but also too grounded to be elevated.

2. Living As if You Already Have ‘IT’

Wayne calls this “Living From the End” which automatically made me think, What??? Live now as if you’re about to die?  But thankfully, that is the opposite of what this means.

I imagine many people would struggle with living a ‘hard’ life as though they were living the life of Megan Markle (if that’s your thing). But at no stage in my manifestation journey have I come across an author that will encourage the reader to dwell on a problem in order to manifest a brighter future. 

Used in conjunction with an expansive imagination, living as though you actually have it has to be a key component of manifesting all of your goals.

As Wayne puts it, “By placing new I ams into your imagination, your future dream is a present fact.”

I have struggled with this principal since I began working with manifestation because it feels like I am lying to myself or avoiding the reality of a particular situation. But that is just bullshit. It’s that choice thing again. I love what Wayne has to say about this and it is well put.

This isn’t pretending or fooling yourself. It is inviting your spirit rather than your physical form to generate the creative essence of your reality.

Wayne Dyer
Be expansive!

3. Feeling ‘IT”

“A change of feeling is a change of destiny.”

Neville from Wishes Fulfilled

This quote says it all for me but again, this is another key foundation of Wishes Fulfilled that I believe people that are experiencing hardship would struggle with. However, Wishes Fulfilled emphasises the point that we must find a way to convince our subconscious minds so that our mind does the work for us and proceeds to bring our desires about. Wayne says we have to really FEEL as though our wishes have been fulfilled.

As Wayne points out, our subconscious mind is “impersonal and non-selective.” It doesn’t care about what we want. We just need to master assuming the feeling of having our wishes fulfilled. 

Wishes Fulfilled points out that, as soon as the subconscious mind receives a feeling impression, it takes action. What an awesome thing to know and have at our disposal!

We have to remember (at all times) that we have the power to choose our thoughts. Therefore, we have to choose the good ones to re-train our subconscious.

4. Unwavering Attention

Over the years of studying the laws of attraction and manifestation, one of the things that has been a common theme is the importance of staying 100% focused on the goal that you want to achieve. Live it, breathe it and as the last foundation reveals, sleep it.

Obviously, this segment of the book speaks to this a lot more but I think the point is made here. One quote I really loved that will give you a sense of where the book goes:

“Our thoughts are traitors. Anyone or anything trying to diminish your inner feelings with doubt is a traitor to be banished.”

Shakespeare in Wishes Fulfilled

5. Visualising Before Sleep

It seems that another good habit to adopt is to use the time before going to sleep to help us to manifest. I first encountered the idea of using sleep to heal when I did a short class on lucid dreaming (to be followed up again in the not too distant future) . I really like this idea and it works well with Wayne’s view that we tell our mind what we want and then it goes off to do the work. 

As with anything to do with the art of manifesting, imagining what you want to manifest before bedtime requires faith and the unflinching belief that anything is possible because we are all part of God (just living a human existence).

To finish this very long book review, I will leave you with another quote I loved:

You don’t have to understand it all; all you need to do is remain in a state of love while reprogramming your subconscious mind to develop the habits of a God-realised being, rather than an ego-dominated person.

Wayne Dyer

This book is for anyone who wants to manifest their best for their highest good.

Rating: 10/10

Thanks for reading. I would love to hear any comments you have or your thoughts on the book!

Spiritual Practice – Caveats, Excuses and Practicalities

Before embarking on any spiritual development path, I have found that it is incredibly important to know what is important to you, what your driver is (your WHY), your personality/personal preferences, how committed you are to getting where you want to go and the practicalities of implementing new daily habits to advance your Goals. You’re 110% more likely to keep going with your new routine if you are first passionate about it and secondly, personally invested.

Developing Spiritual Development Practices – Me

Personally, I am a short, feisty, outspoken, competitive, driven (once I know what I want to achieve) person who isn’t afraid of hard work and understand myself well enough to know that I can commit to a goal until it is reached. I am prepared to do anything that resonates with me to progress my life towards my highest good. To put it in context, sometimes it helps to describe ourselves as others see us. My brother jokingly calls me “Rappy” which is short for the Raptor’s personality in Jurassic Park. Whereas my sister-in-law calls me SSE – “Short, Sharp & Edgy”. I am telling you all of this so that you understand my approach to changing my life. It is important for you to do what works best for you. It may be that you take on less and achieve more. The important thing is that whatever you choose to do with your new daily routine, feels right for  you and works in with your life.

I am also a person who often takes on too much -thinking that I can do it all. This can sometimes be a bit of a game changer  as I get overwhelmed, grumpy and start blaming others for the predicament I’m in (obviously no one else’s fault) – NOT GOOD. Having a set morning routine to follow each day helps! Until you get the routine set in your head, write it down. It also helps if it’s fun and done at the same time every day.

Learn to Say No

Spiritual people like to help others. I am not different. But, one of the things I have learnt since embarking on this new approach to life is that in order to be true to yourself, you need to put yourself first. Learning to say no is difficult for helpers but learning to say ‘NO’ is imperative to your lifelong success and happiness.

Keep yourself fuelled up spiritually, emotionally, physically and mentally before helping others. You will be able to help them more in the long run when you look out for yourself first. I know this goes against the grain but it is worth it. Especially when you are starting out.

It doesn’t have to be forever. Take some time to explain what you are doing to your family so that they understand and can support you. You may even have to delegate some of your normal jobs.

The Routine!

In my 90 day journey towards a more spiritual abundance manifesting life, I have taken on a number of programmes that I use as tools to help me stay focused on my morning routine and keep on track. But, this is where I need to add a word of caution. I have a flexible job that allows for a longer morning routine and I have built up to an hour (approximately) long routine with four different programmes. If you already have a busy morning schedule and/or young kids that need to get off to school, either think about getting up a bit earlier (I know sleep is precious but it may work) or have a shorter routine. Each one of the below are my affiliate programme links.

It doesn’t matter how long your routine is, the important thing is just to have one. Just focussing on your breathing would have a significant positive impact but if you can manage a meditation with a breathing focus I think that you will get more of a benefit.

Keeping Track

With Smartphones, it is pretty easy to keep track but I prefer to write on my wall calendar. Each day that I finish my morning routine, I mark it on my calendar. Don’t judge the messy writing or the clutter of it but basically, just pick the best way for you. An excel spreadsheet would probably do it as well – but that is another job that will take a bit longer than just recording it on your phone’s calendar or a physical one.

By the door so it’s quick an easy to mark the day.

On my Calendar, each one of the circles marks a day that I have completed a particular programme. The black circle marks a day for each day I have completed my routine  for the 90 day count, the blue circle for the amount of days I’ve been doing Eddie Sergey’s 15 Minute Manifestation and the purple circle for each day that I have completed the Winning the Game of Money WGOM. The 90 day count includes the Mind Movies twice a day (morning and evening), the Envisioning Method Meditation and before WGOM, Winning the Game of Fear.

This is one of my favourite aspects to my new routine. Marking my calendar in the morning gives me a great feeling of accomplishment.

Eliminating Distractions

Eliminating distractions is quite a hard thing to do in a busy household but it is important. I can’t count the amount of times I have been deeply involved in a programme only to have a wet nose freak me out and catapult me back into the now. Having a space where you can carry out your daily routine is really important. It’s pretty hard to keep focus even without distractions. If you can, it’s really nice to have a space that is fit for purpose. It’s even fun to decorate a little altar. It doesn’t have to be elaborate. Just something you identify with and is personal to you. Something to celebrate the space.

My Promise

There will be affiliate links on this site. Not all links will be affiliate links. Sometimes they will be links simply to point you to a helpful website or template. But, my promise is this. I will never promote a product on this site that I haven’t first tried myself.  I will honestly tell you my thoughts on the benefits of the product and if there aren’t any, you will not see them on this site. Think of me as your Guinea Pig.