Growing up, our lovely parents taught us that it is important to have goals. How important it is to continually strive for something better – well mine did. Looking back on my life, I can see that my WHOLE life has been centred around trying harder. Doing better. Working harder. Earning more. Striving. Competing.
One of my Oldest sayings has been, “I’ll never be one of those people that “Will be happy when”…. You know how it goes. I’ll be happy when I have that new car or I’ll be happy when I have paid off the house. But guess what? True to the Law of Attraction, constantly saying that has meant that this that was my focus and in the back of my mind, exactly what I have been doing – without even realising it. Putting living my life off until….
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For one reason or another, I have attracted “hardship” or ongoing crap. It hasn’t all been bad but there seems to be a constant stream of drama’s. I know that I certainly give it the power by complaining “the situation” all the time.
I complain about things in the most positive of ways. The typical way that I tell my story is: Blah, blah, blah. Complain, complain, complain. “Oh but, it will be okay. It will all work out”. Or some other trending ‘positive’ catch phrase that works. This convinces others that I am a “positive” person. But, ultimately I am still complaining about the “reality” of the situation or event rather than being truly PRESENT.
Anita’s book got me to thinking that perhaps I should just throw it all out. Stop doing all of the things that make up my hour plus long morning routine to attract great wealth and a better life. Stop caring and worrying about everything. Just let life unfold as it is meant to. As I chose it to be before I even chose to incarnate in this lifetime. Just live my life purpose and everything else be damned.
But, that is not how it works. As Anita says, in our human forms our minds get in the way but we have all come here with a purpose. Collectively, by improving ourselves we improve the global consciousness simply because we are all connected.
Thinking it through again, I realised that it may be human to think but it is also human to always want to do greater things. To Strive. To grow. I certainly do. I realised that my daily routine wasn’t just about manifesting more wealth into my life. It’s true to say that I started my daily routine to learn how to manifest more wealth but I wanted more wealth so that I could help more people.
The morning routine lives another day! I just have to remind myself yet again, that it’s the journey that counts and to fully live every day.
Don’t Believe the Hype – Spirituality doesn’t work to a timepiece!
During winning the Game of Fear, John Assaraf demonstrated this lovely graph. It was your standard bell curve graph that showed a 90 day timeline. The graph referenced showed that a habit or programming generally fades into the distance at the end of a 90 day period.
I started my new and positive routine on the 16th of April and here’s the proof.
I work that out to be 189 days! If you guessed that I sound pissed off that I am not living my dream life with my 3 houses, kids financially independent, health 100% excellent, 100% positive, trekking around the world, working from home with my profitable/successful online business – you would have guessed right.
Pissed off might be a bit of an overstatement but I haven’t manifested any of the things that I have been visualising for the last 189 days. In all of the online forums and communities I belong to, I read about people manifesting anything they want instantaneously by applying the things that I have been applying in my life for the past 189 days. It is disheartening. Especially when I hark back to John’s bell curve.
Is there something wrong with me? Am I doing it all wrong? Is manifesting just for other people? Is it time to stop wasting my time?
Back in April, I was doing it all.
Eddie Sergey’s – 15 Minute Manifestation
Natalie Ledwell’s – Ultimate Success Masterclass and Mind Movies
John Assaraf’s – Winning the Game of Fear
Vishen Lakhiani’s – 6 Phase Meditation from Mind Valley
On and Off hypnosis with Marissa Peer
What I have learnt is that I can’t do it all at once – or probably shouldn’t. Still not 100% sure because ‘IT’ hasn’t worked yet.
Or has it?
Time to recap. Since April, I have:
Seen a significant change in my thinking
Seen an improvement in my relationship with my daughter
Reacted to challenging situations in my life a WHOLE lot better
Been more relaxed
Felt good about my commitment to my morning routine
Fought for and got a refund to the value of $4,000 from a merchant who promises at the time of purchase that there is absolutely no chance of a refund post purchase
Worked from home a LOT more = Had time to earn an income from a job and grow my business
Had a small win with Lotto
DECLUTTERED my life
Time to Hunker Down
After a recap and a quick slap to the side of my head, I realise that my ‘demon’ are at it again. Manifesting isn’t about getting ‘stuff’ or instantly being the best person we can be. It’s all about the journey. I know that I keep banging on about it but whenever I catch myself in negative thinking, this is always where I come back to. Dah! Don’t forget – it’s about the bloody journey. And it’s been a helluva ride so far.
What I know is that I enjoy my morning routine (which is now a whole lot simpler) and I am changing. I am absolutely seeing positive results. It may not be the results that I was expecting or wanting but do I care? Not really. I’m enjoying the ride and looking forward to seeing what comes next.
In many of the books that I have read, the point is made that when you are experiencing the negative feelings sometimes associated with the Art of Manifesting – it’s time to hang on with all of your appendages! Keep up the good fight. Keep calm and carry on. Battle on. Keep moving forward. All that good stuff. There is zero value in comparing yourself and your progress to anyone elses!
I firmly believe it! As Wayne Dyer says:
Change the things that you are looking at and the things that you are looking at will change.
Dr Wayne W. Dyer is the best selling author of over 20 books and it can easily be said, an expert in manifesting he is also well known as the “Father of Motivation”. His life work was to elevate the consciousness of as may people as possible through Self Empowerment and Personal Growth. His work has had a powerful and life changing effect on me and I am sure continues to do so for a vast amount of people on the planet. He was a true visionary and his work just keeps on giving.
It is my absolute pleasure to write a review for Dr Wayne W. Dyer’s book Wishes Fulfilled. Because of Wayne’s very personable writing style, his books are never difficult to read but this one I found absolutely enthralling. I just about used up all of my sticky note tabs marking what I thought to be the key points or particularly thought provoking that I needed to re-visit.
Wishes Fulfilled takes the concept of the Art of Manifesting and the tools provided in “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne to a whole new level. With well-researched ideas and a common sense approach to life, Wishes Fulfilled gives you the very tools you need to manifest anything that you want into your life but you may need to open your mind before you read it.
Our Higher Selves
I have always believed (well as long as I can remember) in the concept of my higher self but Wishes Fulfilled goes even deeper than I had considered previously. For me, it is a fact that we are all connected on this planet and this book not only reinforces that concept but explores some very well researched content that proves (to me) that not only are we connected, but the knowledge of this has been around for hundreds, if not thousands of years.
“Health, wealth, beauty and genius are not created; they are only manifested by the arrangement of your mind – that is, by your concept of yourself, and your concept of yourself is all that you accept and consent to as true.”
This is one of the first quotes that peeked my interest because of when it was written. Many people would believe that “The Secret” was the trail blazer but Neville and many others beat them to it by a country mile.
I love the idea of needing to have a “burning desire” to drive you towards all of your manifesting dreams. First termed by Neville, Wayne Dyer takes it further to say we need to see ourselves as “observers.” Not letting our thoughts control us and throwing out the negative ones that keep us stuck in a life of ordinary.
According to Wayne, we need to use our burning desire to become the manifesters we want to be by only focusing on those thoughts that are for our highest good and remembering we are divine. Christie Marie Sheldon puts this very well. We are “infinite beings having a human experience.”
The chapters of Wishes Fulfilled that focus on our higher selves continues to deliver quotes and ideas that are supportive of the concept of our higher selves but I have to say that these chapters have changed the way that I approach my days. Wayne’s view that we are equal to or are God will be pretty mind boggling and blasphemous for some but this is why it is so important to read this book with an open mind.
In my view, this book truly convinces one that we are all God and have access to all that God does if we only change our attention. Our focus. My favourite quote of this section follows:
“Believing in that ego-driven idea of God as a malevolent super being who plays favourites and is filled with rage if you displease Him is akin to believing in the Easter bunny and praying that that rabbit to solve your problems. Keep uppermost in your thoughts the words of Jesus – “God is love” – and that you are proud to be that all-powerful God yourself.”
I will never use God’s name in vain again. My “I AM’s” will only ever be positive ones.
The Five Foundations
There is so much in Wishes Fulfilled that I would love to quote but I want people to read this post so that more people read the book – so, I will struggle along to summarise my thoughts on this wonderful book in as few words as possible.
The Five Foundations that Wayne talks about are fairly obvious to anyone that has read or studied personal development and wellness. But there are obvious differences and the author explores each topic from a spiritual viewpoint rather than scientifically – which I really liked.
Rather than completely plagiarise the book, there are five key themes (or foundations as they are called in Wishes Fulfilled) that a generally as follows:
The Importance of Imagination
Live now as though you already have ‘it’
Feeling that you have it on an emotional level
Visualising before sleep
1. The Importance of Imagination
Two of the main things that I picked up in this segment of the book is about not limiting our imaginations and to never tell anyone else about our dreams. These two things will stay with me forever. Almost immediately after finishing Wishes Fulfilled, myself and my partner met with a Financial Advisor to map out our next five year plan. When I told him about developing an Affiliate Marketing business so that I could work from home, his comment was “Oh, that will never work. We’ve had other clients that have tried that and they’ve failed. Boom! Positive reinforcement not to share.
I’m refusing to let anyone drag my dreams down. As Wayne says:
“Reprogram your imagination to take you everywhere – everywhere that you are brave enough to envision for yourself.”
We have to think expansively to stay true to our higher selves. I follow Mike Dooley and one of his catch phrases is “Thoughts become Things. Pick the good ones.” It’s easy to say, “stay positive” to someone but it’s more than that. When we catch ourselves thinking negatively, it’s important to choose more expansive thoughts. Thoughts that have “a sacred sense of rightness” always moving us to a higher vibration. A higher vibration that is not controlled by ego that exists purely to keep us physically ‘safe’ but also too grounded to be elevated.
2. Living As if You Already Have ‘IT’
Wayne calls this “Living From the End” which automatically made me think, What??? Live now as if you’re about to die? But thankfully, that is the opposite of what this means.
I imagine many people would struggle with living a ‘hard’ life as though they were living the life of Megan Markle (if that’s your thing). But at no stage in my manifestation journey have I come across an author that will encourage the reader to dwell on a problem in order to manifest a brighter future.
Used in conjunction with an expansive imagination, living as though you actually have it has to be a key component of manifesting all of your goals.
As Wayne puts it, “By placing new I ams into your imagination, your future dream is a present fact.”
I have struggled with this principal since I began working with manifestation because it feels like I am lying to myself or avoiding the reality of a particular situation. But that is just bullshit. It’s that choice thing again. I love what Wayne has to say about this and it is well put.
This isn’t pretending or fooling yourself. It is inviting your spirit rather than your physical form to generate the creative essence of your reality.
3. Feeling ‘IT”
“A change of feeling is a change of destiny.”
Neville from Wishes Fulfilled
This quote says it all for me but again, this is another key foundation of Wishes Fulfilled that I believe people that are experiencing hardship would struggle with. However, Wishes Fulfilled emphasises the point that we must find a way to convince our subconscious minds so that our mind does the work for us and proceeds to bring our desires about. Wayne says we have to really FEEL as though our wishes have been fulfilled.
As Wayne points out, our subconscious mind is “impersonal and non-selective.” It doesn’t care about what we want. We just need to master assuming the feeling of having our wishes fulfilled.
Wishes Fulfilled points out that, as soon as the subconscious mind receives a feeling impression, it takes action. What an awesome thing to know and have at our disposal!
We have to remember (at all times) that we have the power to choose our thoughts. Therefore, we have to choose the good ones to re-train our subconscious.
4. Unwavering Attention
Over the years of studying the laws of attraction and manifestation, one of the things that has been a common theme is the importance of staying 100% focused on the goal that you want to achieve. Live it, breathe it and as the last foundation reveals, sleep it.
Obviously, this segment of the book speaks to this a lot more but I think the point is made here. One quote I really loved that will give you a sense of where the book goes:
“Our thoughts are traitors. Anyone or anything trying to diminish your inner feelings with doubt is a traitor to be banished.”
Shakespeare in Wishes Fulfilled
5. Visualising Before Sleep
It seems that another good habit to adopt is to use the time before going to sleep to help us to manifest. I first encountered the idea of using sleep to heal when I did a short class on lucid dreaming (to be followed up again in the not too distant future) . I really like this idea and it works well with Wayne’s view that we tell our mind what we want and then it goes off to do the work.
As with anything to do with the art of manifesting, imagining what you want to manifest before bedtime requires faith and the unflinching belief that anything is possible because we are all part of God (just living a human existence).
To finish this very long book review, I will leave you with another quote I loved:
You don’t have to understand it all; all you need to do is remain in a state of love while reprogramming your subconscious mind to develop the habits of a God-realised being, rather than an ego-dominated person.
Thanks for reading. I would love to hear any comments you have or your thoughts on the book!
Before embarking on any spiritual development path, I have found that it is incredibly important to know what is important to you, what your driver is (your WHY), your personality/personal preferences, how committed you are to getting where you want to go and the practicalities of implementing new daily habits to advance your Goals. You’re 110% more likely to keep going with your new routine if you are first passionate about it and secondly, personally invested.
Developing Spiritual Development Practices – Me
Personally, I am a short, feisty, outspoken, competitive, driven (once I know what I want to achieve) person who isn’t afraid of hard work and understand myself well enough to know that I can commit to a goal until it is reached. I am prepared to do anything that resonates with me to progress my life towards my highest good. To put it in context, sometimes it helps to describe ourselves as others see us. My brother jokingly calls me “Rappy” which is short for the Raptor’s personality in Jurassic Park. Whereas my sister-in-law calls me SSE – “Short, Sharp & Edgy”. I am telling you all of this so that you understand my approach to changing my life. It is important for you to do what works best for you. It may be that you take on less and achieve more. The important thing is that whatever you choose to do with your new daily routine, feels right for you and works in with your life.
I am also a person who often takes on too much -thinking that I can do it all. This can sometimes be a bit of a game changer as I get overwhelmed, grumpy and start blaming others for the predicament I’m in (obviously no one else’s fault) – NOT GOOD. Having a set morning routine to follow each day helps! Until you get the routine set in your head, write it down. It also helps if it’s fun and done at the same time every day.
Learn to Say No
Spiritual people like to help others. I am not different. But, one of the things I have learnt since embarking on this new approach to life is that in order to be true to yourself, you need to put yourself first. Learning to say no is difficult for helpers but learning to say ‘NO’ is imperative to your lifelong success and happiness.
Keep yourself fuelled up spiritually, emotionally, physically and mentally before helping others. You will be able to help them more in the long run when you look out for yourself first. I know this goes against the grain but it is worth it. Especially when you are starting out.
It doesn’t have to be forever. Take some time to explain what you are doing to your family so that they understand and can support you. You may even have to delegate some of your normal jobs.
In my 90 day journey towards a more spiritual abundance manifesting life, I have taken on a number of programmes that I use as tools to help me stay focused on my morning routine and keep on track. But, this is where I need to add a word of caution. I have a flexible job that allows for a longer morning routine and I have built up to an hour (approximately) long routine with four different programmes. If you already have a busy morning schedule and/or young kids that need to get off to school, either think about getting up a bit earlier (I know sleep is precious but it may work) or have a shorter routine. Each one of the below are my affiliate programme links.
It doesn’t matter how long your routine is, the important thing is just to have one. Just focussing on your breathing would have a significant positive impact but if you can manage a meditation with a breathing focus I think that you will get more of a benefit.
With Smartphones, it is pretty easy to keep track but I prefer to write on my wall calendar. Each day that I finish my morning routine, I mark it on my calendar. Don’t judge the messy writing or the clutter of it but basically, just pick the best way for you. An excel spreadsheet would probably do it as well – but that is another job that will take a bit longer than just recording it on your phone’s calendar or a physical one.
On my Calendar, each one of the circles marks a day that I have completed a particular programme. The black circle marks a day for each day I have completed my routine for the 90 day count, the blue circle for the amount of days I’ve been doing Eddie Sergey’s 15 Minute Manifestation and the purple circle for each day that I have completed the Winning the Game of Money WGOM. The 90 day count includes the Mind Movies twice a day (morning and evening), the Envisioning Method Meditation and before WGOM, Winning the Game of Fear.
This is one of my favourite aspects to my new routine. Marking my calendar in the morning gives me a great feeling of accomplishment.
Eliminating distractions is quite a hard thing to do in a busy household but it is important. I can’t count the amount of times I have been deeply involved in a programme only to have a wet nose freak me out and catapult me back into the now. Having a space where you can carry out your daily routine is really important. It’s pretty hard to keep focus even without distractions. If you can, it’s really nice to have a space that is fit for purpose. It’s even fun to decorate a little altar. It doesn’t have to be elaborate. Just something you identify with and is personal to you. Something to celebrate the space.
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