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Over 50? Who Cares! Gender and Age Doesn’t Matter.

Today I came across this article and it got me thinking about why Gender or age still matter at this time in our evolution.

https://www.nowtolove.com.au/lifestyle/daily-life/women-over-50-58209

Over the years, I often heard my mother speak about ‘feeling invisible’. Of course, what she meant  was that when you reach a certain age – people stop ‘seeing’ you. You become that older ‘person’ that is past there prime and no longer a head turner or someone to be noticed.

Over 50? What’s the issue.

In my 20’s, I couldn’t really understand the concept. In my 30’s, I kind of could but thought that if you’re in a committed, loving relationship why would I care who else looks at me? Now that I am in my 50’s, I am pleased to say that I still don’t care whether I am invisible to those that I don’t know or care what they do or don’t think of me. I’m loving being in a place where such things don’t matter. Neither does my gender.

But, clearly I am in the minority as I did a bit more looking around and found tonnes of articles about ‘Women over 50’. Why not men over 50?

Knowing What’s Important? It’s Not Gender.

I am the first to acknowledge the glass ceilings and gender bias that is in the workplace. Any woman that works has seen it. It doesn’t matter if that is in corporate offices or women building houses. It is all the same. There will always be a gender bias whilst there are men and women on the planet. 

Admittedly (for most people) the divide isn’t as big as it used to be. More and more women are taking their spots in the Boardroom and doing better than a lot of other men in the workplace. I’m proud to say that in a lot of cases we are showing men up – in a good way. Taking our power back. Working from the strengths of our gender. Not trying to be a man in the workplace.

But, then I read articles like this about how we’re (women) not invisible. I’m reminded about how much and how often the smallest slights hold women back. In a lot of cases, stopping women from using their voice to find their place! I’m a bit over the gender bias. Both the ones that we apply to ourselves and also those that others apply to us.

I know that it sounds like I’m mad. But I’m not. I’m not even sad about it. But I do acknowledge it.

I acknowledge that there is still a lot of gender discrimination in the world with women taking the brunt of the negative side affects. All of us women should stand up to protect each other when we see it (and should but usually don’t) but we can also choose a different path.

I may not be sad or mad but I am also choosing how I react to this over 50 bullocks. I’m choosing to focus on what’s important. And that’s living my life my way. Not getting dragged down or aged before my time because the media or society decrees it’s a ‘thing’.

Having The Confidence To Shine At Any Age!

Unlike my 20’s, in my 50’s I am more confident, bolder, less likely to take shit, more financially secure, more in control of my life and how I choose to feel – not all the time but far from my self indulgent 20’s! It would have been nice to feel like this my whole life but the truth is – most of us never achieve that. We spend our whole lives trying to find that missing piece or trying to be someone we’re not.

My plan is to make sure that I spend the rest of my life shining – irrespective of what my age is! I don’t believe that the opinion of others or social barriers placed on our societies (and ourselves subconsciously or otherwise) have any hold on me. 

It’s Time For Conscious Living

There is no doubt that one of my main drivers to escape the corporate world was because of glass ceilings and men thinking that they can do a better job simply because they are men. But, I have to say that these days – women can be just as bad. Some women in the workplace have decided it’s a good idea to emulate the behaviours of men. But, how does that benefit the global consciousness or anyone for that matter? Trying to be more masculine because it seems to be the way to get ahead is as inauthentic as it gets and harmful to self.

I spend more time online now than I ever have. I read, listen to audios, belong to forums, belong to groups and participate in a lot of group training. It’s scary how there seems to be a common theme. Women having to support other women (and ourselves) to use our voices more. To be all that we were meant to be. 

Breaking All the BRULES!

There is no denying that most of us (in this generation) have been conditioned (to a degree) to kow tow to men. Conditioned to believe that we are invisible when we get to a certain age. That our opinion doesn’t count. But, it’s all BRULE’s!

BRULE’s – Bullshit Rule’s

Vishen Lakhiani – Code of the Extraordinary Mind

See the Brules article here.

Vishen Lakhiani – Code of the Extraordinary Mind

It’s time to stop copying the behaviours of men (or anyone else for that matter) and use our own voices to be authentic and be vulnerable when we need to be – without fear.

Don’t Get Me Wrong. I Love Men!

Seriously. I don’t want to be seen as that man hating liberalist female that refuses to shave my armpits or step through doors when a man opens it for me. There’s nothing wrong with that but it’s not for me. 

Men are awesome and have held a very strong and valuable place in our lives, in our societies – building our cities, staving off invaders, hunting and gathering, helping to care for our families – being great men! 

The stereotypical qualities of men have been needed. Men (and women) have needed these qualities to survive. I’m just not sure that we should try to be more like the ‘stereotypical’ men. There’s a reason we are different and women will shine the brightest when we do it our way.

Maybe, we just need to try and rub off on the stereotypical men folk a bit more, lead more and voice more. 

Lead by doing and being vulnerable. Let the world know it’s safe.

Finding Balance

I follow so many great men and women online as I am sure everyone does. But, as in everything there are stereotypical men and stereotypical women that will fight hard to keep the status quo because they don’t know any other way.

We in the know need to step up. We need to find a balance as our most authentic selves. Stop competing and realise that we can all choose the path we want to be on. 

No more glass ceilings, sexist jokes or barriers for me!

7 Things To Do To Keep Your Mindset Unstoppable!

There are reasons why Tony Robbins, Dean Graziosi and Russell Brunson make mindset a focus at the beginning of their courses. It is simply because, mindset is all that matters when it comes to achieving your goals.

Personally, I have been doing mindfulness exercises daily for a long time but I do find that remembering to check in throughout the day is difficult. Sometimes near impossible. Having said that, I have always considered that I have a pretty well trained mindset. But, (and here is the scary thing) we all operate with our subconscious brains operating in the background. Messing with everything we think we know.

Mindset is key to transforming your life.

I have been spinning my wheels in the sand for two years and I can only put this down to mindset. Determination and grit are not the only things you need to succeed. An unstoppable mindset needs to be much more.

One of my biggest issues (or problems) is that I am a person that likes to try to do everything myself. I buy endless courses and end up not being able to complete any of them. Sometimes, you have to stop focusing on learning and start doing. I’m a firm believer that this is our subconscious working hard to keep us doing what we’ve always done. No more!

It’s time to stick to the things that matter and work on an unstoppable mindset.

Here are the 7 things I plan to do every day to make sure that happens.

1. KBB Training – My Mindset Shift

One of the courses that I have purchased recently is the KBB (Knowledge Broker Blueprint) training that Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi have produced together. Yes, I am committed to completing this course because I think it will help me shift the needle in a big way.

Change your mindset

KBB has certainly helped me shift my mindset to a whole new level. Tony and Dean are both incredibly motivational. If you are in need of a mentor (not a guru) these are probably two of the best to learn from and short cut your online business.

2. Morning Routine

Without morning routine a morning routine, I would have been carted off to the funny farm many years ago. There is no doubt that it is the single best thing that I have introduced into my life that has kept me sane.

Each morning, I (in order):

  • Meditate – between 10-30 minutes time depending
  • Write 5 things I am grateful for – Gratitude journal
  • Affirmations – 5 minutes
  • Exercise – 10-30 minutes time depending
  • KBB training

3. Take Massive Action

Thirty days seems to be a recognised period of time to change a bad habit or change something that is no longer serving us. So, for the next 30 days (likely forever) I am going to take massive action towards achieving my goals.

To have an unstoppable mindset, you need to take action.

To do this, I am going to plan the next 30 days and take at least one action towards shifting the needle in my business whilst still working full time at my J-O-B.

4. Journal

My gratitude journal is a cute little book that has a space each day to list out the 5 things that I am grateful for. But, I also believe that it’s important to keep a journal that goes a bit deeper. It will help to identify the limiting beliefs that our subconscious loves to throw at us to mess things up.

5. Feed & Condition

One of my great loves is to read but I often put it off to cook dinner or kick back watching netflix with my family. As part of the next 30 days, I am going to commit to a few changes in all areas of my life using these four questions from KBB:

  1. What are 2 things I can do daily to feed my mind?
  2. What are 2 things I can read in the next 90 days?
  3. What are 2 things I can do daily to feed my body?
  4. What are my ultimate goals and aspirations for this year?

6. Instant Mindset Shift

We all know that negative self speak is a killer. I have been re-framing my negative self speak for years, so I know that it is a constant battle to not let negative thoughts creep in. Tony has a good tool for this called transformational vocabulary which quickly switches negative messages and changes your internal dialogue.

7. Share The Message.

Another of my main reasons for growing an online business was because I want to help a lot of people. And, the only way that I can see us all helping each other is with an online business. That means sharing and being authentic. My plan is to get out of my own way and post more. Spinning my wheels is no longer an option!

Share the message to help others change their mindset.

As Tony Robbins says (paraphrased):

There are three decisions that control your whole life:

  1. How you take control of your focus – Focus on the things that are going to empower you.
  2. What does it mean? How are you going to be better tomorrow than you are today.
  3. What are you going to do?

Change these decisions and your life will change.

Change your mindset